Have The Respect To Walk Away

By Evan Sanders


There's this really interesting art in walking away from people who don't treat you well, respect you enough to reply to you, or just don't act like you mean much to them. On one hand you want to be close with as many potential people as you can and you reach out attempting to make new good friends. On the other hand you have this respect for yourself and pride in how you act. The middle ground is hard to find sometimes. It is something that I grapple with over and over again. Really, at what point do you hold your head up high and walk away from the relationship?

I hold myself to a high standard. A large amount of the time I find myself not needing to do something but doing it anyhow because I know the other person deserves that. I'm of the opinion that is what I would appreciate if the situation was switched around. But I feel lots of the time people don't really do that for me. I don't know if this is just my generation, but it has become incredibly popular for people to just not make a response to you, not take seconds out of their day to really recognize effort, and just hide. I don't know what it is. I don't understand what makes people do this. Is it a lack of respect? Do you simply not like me? Do you simply not care?

As I'm going through life, things seem to become more intense. I give my heart out to others in a unique way that I have never been capable of before - and I love that I have started to develop that. But simultaneously I have experienced many angles that are just the biggest turnoffs in general. I find that balance between giving people chances, and deciding to walk away. It's hard to let people in your life go ...especially when there is no gigantic blowup of any sort.

It's hard to flip off attempting to bring other people joy. Because that's what it really comes down to for me. I try to bring others as much joy as I am capable of throughout the day. I try and make people laugh. I try to give them a little leg up, some confidence, some spark to their day that might make it all that much better and happier. I don't expect them to do exactly same for me...but I do look for respect, and if it is not there, I don't attempt to convince them...I just move forward and end up leaving.

Finding the balance has been wonderfully hard on my heart these days. But in all truth, I know what I need to do. I need to walk away. I need to respect myself enough, the type of person I am and not accept something less than I know what I truly deserve. You must know what you are worth. If you don't think you are 100% worth it, you may accept anything. Remember, people only treat you certain ways by what you accept from them.




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