It is often the things that we want the most that become the most elusive to us. Never has this been more true than when we're talking about romantic relationships. If your ex has left you and you are trying to rebuild this relationship, your efforts at this point very well might be futile at the moment. Often right after a relationship, an ex will be stubborn and resistant to talking or even considering getting back together. While you struggle with the pain and you hear the age old advice to move on from your ex and your friends, time is passing. Time moves very slowly when we are waiting for something that we desire and the best thing to do at this point is to keep yourself busy and look to the future.
This piece of advice might be something that you should consider at least temporarily. Taking advantage of the time that you will be apart from your ex and allowing time to heal the wounds between you and your ex is solid advice. Many people spends weeks or months being upset and sad. You can take advantage of this time and kill two birds with one stone. By improving your life while you're apart from your ex you can become more attractive and you very well might wind up attracting your ex back more quickly than you realized.
One thing you can do, if you ever thought of it before, is to start your own little business. Imagine being able to tell your ex that you started that business that you always dreamed about the next time you talk with them. The added income and freedom that owning your own business can provide will be very attractive and if money was an issue in the past, this will help to solve that problem also. Now is the time to start making plans and thinking about what you would do if nothing was impossible.
The dream of owning your own business will be your focus for some time but as an added benefit, you will worry less about your ex. You will be doing something with your life instead of thinking about the problem of how to get your ex back. Often when we have a big problem such as a relationship that has headed south, we can't see the solution. Even though you might think that focusing on a solution is the logical way to solve this problem, we become so wrapped up in the drama and emotions surrounding the breakup that we become stuck. Also, all the attention that you are focusing upon your ex has a detrimental effect upon how they view you and feel about you. When a person becomes bigger than life or when we put them up on a pedestal, they usually shy away from us or flee from us. You will find that soon after you begin focusing on your business instead of your ex, they will have the freedom to love you again without the pressure that you were probably putting upon them.
If you have ever had the dream of traveling or going on a vacation, now might be a good time to do that. Getting out of town for a week or an extended weekend would do you good and it would be less expensive now that you're single. Maybe you dreamed of going on a cruise or visiting a far away destination. Even if you lack the funds right now to go on that dream vacation, making plans, picking a destination and formulating a budget to achieve your goal is something that you can do. Then you will have something to look forward to in the near future.
When you do go on your vacation, make sure to take plenty of photos and post them to your social networking profiles. Your ex will see these and they will become a little jealous that your life is moving on without them. They will want to be a part of your life and do fun things with you again. While this might seem a little tricky, your ex was the one to leave you. You should not be expected to drop off the face of the planet or never do anything fun again. Your trip to Paris or Mexico could your way of grieving and making yourself feel better in the wake of your breakup, right?
Improving yourself and regaining your self-esteem and confidence needs to be a primary goal from here on out. Doing something constructive to help you to feel better and improve your mood is a part of life that very well might be absent these days. Joining a gym, taking up yoga or meditation are great ways to improve your body and your mind after a breakup. Taking a few courses at your local collage or a new hobby like fencing or rock climbing. Do something that is going to make you happy and expand your mind as well as make you feel good about yourself.
The next time someone tells you that you need to forget about your ex and move on with your life, agree with them and begin living your life for yourself. Putting your relationship problems on the back burner while you distract yourself for a short period of time might be the best thing that you ever do to get your ex back. Nobody needs to know that you are truly giving up on your ex. Showing everyone, including your ex, that you value yourself and that you want to have an interesting life is what will be perceived from the outside. On the inside, it's perfectly fine for you to continue to love your ex and hope for them to come back to you. Instead of worrying about whether your ex is going to come back, you will actually be making your life and your personality more attractive to everyone, especially your ex. Start living your life again and you very well may find that your ex comes back to you more quickly than you thought they would.
This piece of advice might be something that you should consider at least temporarily. Taking advantage of the time that you will be apart from your ex and allowing time to heal the wounds between you and your ex is solid advice. Many people spends weeks or months being upset and sad. You can take advantage of this time and kill two birds with one stone. By improving your life while you're apart from your ex you can become more attractive and you very well might wind up attracting your ex back more quickly than you realized.
One thing you can do, if you ever thought of it before, is to start your own little business. Imagine being able to tell your ex that you started that business that you always dreamed about the next time you talk with them. The added income and freedom that owning your own business can provide will be very attractive and if money was an issue in the past, this will help to solve that problem also. Now is the time to start making plans and thinking about what you would do if nothing was impossible.
The dream of owning your own business will be your focus for some time but as an added benefit, you will worry less about your ex. You will be doing something with your life instead of thinking about the problem of how to get your ex back. Often when we have a big problem such as a relationship that has headed south, we can't see the solution. Even though you might think that focusing on a solution is the logical way to solve this problem, we become so wrapped up in the drama and emotions surrounding the breakup that we become stuck. Also, all the attention that you are focusing upon your ex has a detrimental effect upon how they view you and feel about you. When a person becomes bigger than life or when we put them up on a pedestal, they usually shy away from us or flee from us. You will find that soon after you begin focusing on your business instead of your ex, they will have the freedom to love you again without the pressure that you were probably putting upon them.
If you have ever had the dream of traveling or going on a vacation, now might be a good time to do that. Getting out of town for a week or an extended weekend would do you good and it would be less expensive now that you're single. Maybe you dreamed of going on a cruise or visiting a far away destination. Even if you lack the funds right now to go on that dream vacation, making plans, picking a destination and formulating a budget to achieve your goal is something that you can do. Then you will have something to look forward to in the near future.
When you do go on your vacation, make sure to take plenty of photos and post them to your social networking profiles. Your ex will see these and they will become a little jealous that your life is moving on without them. They will want to be a part of your life and do fun things with you again. While this might seem a little tricky, your ex was the one to leave you. You should not be expected to drop off the face of the planet or never do anything fun again. Your trip to Paris or Mexico could your way of grieving and making yourself feel better in the wake of your breakup, right?
Improving yourself and regaining your self-esteem and confidence needs to be a primary goal from here on out. Doing something constructive to help you to feel better and improve your mood is a part of life that very well might be absent these days. Joining a gym, taking up yoga or meditation are great ways to improve your body and your mind after a breakup. Taking a few courses at your local collage or a new hobby like fencing or rock climbing. Do something that is going to make you happy and expand your mind as well as make you feel good about yourself.
The next time someone tells you that you need to forget about your ex and move on with your life, agree with them and begin living your life for yourself. Putting your relationship problems on the back burner while you distract yourself for a short period of time might be the best thing that you ever do to get your ex back. Nobody needs to know that you are truly giving up on your ex. Showing everyone, including your ex, that you value yourself and that you want to have an interesting life is what will be perceived from the outside. On the inside, it's perfectly fine for you to continue to love your ex and hope for them to come back to you. Instead of worrying about whether your ex is going to come back, you will actually be making your life and your personality more attractive to everyone, especially your ex. Start living your life again and you very well may find that your ex comes back to you more quickly than you thought they would.
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