Do You Have The Feeling That Your Marriage Is Falling Apart?

By Herbert Zabala


If you or someone that you know has been through issues in their marriage, you know full well just how difficult things can get. For a lot of people dealing with relationship troubles with their spouse, it can take a whole lot out on you both emotionally and even physically with all of the stress that can take place.

There can be good days and bad days, which will make you feel as though you are on a sort of emotional roller coaster that has come off of the tracks.

Spouses who grew up in a home with a bad marriage often assume that this is the same everywhere. They see their parents go through their marriage without love just for the kids. This usually does not help the children at all.

As a matter of fact, it is not all that uncommon for someone who came from a broken home or a situation where their parents were always fighting to fall into a pattern of the same behavior. Because this type of action seems normal, it is difficult for them to understand that what they are going through is not necessarily healthy.

Some of the signs of a marriage in trouble include the lack of affection, intimacy and communication. There may be even abuse physically and verbally. If either the husband or the wife make excuses to not be at home all the time, that is a signal that something is wrong. With no communication, problems cannot be solved. You have to recognize and accept what the problem is, then solve it together.

Do not deny what has been happening. Maybe you think that marriage is sacred and don't want to seek help because you are afraid to fail. Other people may stay in a bad marriage because they are doing it for their children, or they don't want to disappoint their family and friends. You don't have to sacrifice your happiness to protect them. Admit what is happen, then seek help.

There will often be a lot of excuses being made by either partner to try and stay away from home as much as possible or there will be a lot of issues that can arise from having a difficult time staying on the same page when it comes to important decisions.

Don't fall victim to the fallacy that you can save your marriage all on your own. If you do, you may wait until it is too late to see a counselor. Counselors are remarkably effective in helping couples suffering through a bad marriage; more than 50 percent of the time, couples that see a counselor wind up staying together.

If you have gone to counseling and you still do not see any good results coming out of it, then the chances are that you are holding onto something that may be too far gone to repair.

Try to remember that dealing with a bad marriage can end up being quite dangerous to your health and mental stability. If you have children, they need you to remain strong and steadfast no matter what may be going on within the relationship with the other parent.

Before you do anything else, though, make sure you really want to save your marriage. If you do, there is nothing stopping you other than yourself.




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